One of the things I enjoy most about being a woman is allowing myself to be the "weaker sex". I know. That sounds SO politically incorrect. Since I don't consider myself even remotely politically correct, I really don't care! :o)
Let me clarify that by "weaker" I don't necessarily mean WEAK. By disposition, I am an independent, competitive sort. I generally like to do things by myself, and do them well! Thankfully, I was raised by parents who taught me to temper my independence with femininity.
I've made acquaintance with females who take pride in being "tough". They do NOT like men to open doors for them, think it's silly for guys to offer to carry heavy objects, and who scoff at the idea of women needing men. At the risk of being prudishly out-of-date, allow me to quickly state the fact that I ENJOY NEEDING MY MAN. I was blessed beyond measure to marry a man who is a gentlemen in every sense of the word. Jeremy opens doors for me, carries in my groceries, and even likes to pump gasoline into my vehicle. :o) I am quite capable of doing all of these tasks, and he knows it; it simply gives him pleasure to serve me in this way.
An quick admonition to you unmarried girls: allow the guys in your life to be gentlemen. Appreciate their overtures of chivalry, even if they seem a bit clumsy as times. Your brothers, cousins, and friends are learning too; encourage them with genuine thankfulness! There's nothing wrong with being capable, but don't be so independent that you crowd out your feminine mystique. Part of a girl's charm is that she is delicate and sweet. This DOESN'T mean that you need to lay around piqued and pale, whining for help like a distressed puppy! But, a gracious disposition and an appreciative smile will go along way in earning the respect of those around you, and encouraging a little chivalry on the part of the man in your life (whether it be your father, brother, or husband).
Relish the fact that you are a girl. You are different from men; not better or superior, but beautifully, intricately different. Enjoy it! Cultivate a feminine spirit and learn to appreciate true masculinity (men enjoy being appreciated!). Hold your standards high, both for yourself and your future husband. Be a lady and expect to marry a gentlemen! Someday you will win the heart of a true Prince. I know this to be the truth; it worked for me. :o)
sweet friends said
7 Responses to "Relishing Feminine Mystique"I really liked this post! Even though I am more naturally independent, it is shockingly delightful when a man (or boy) displays a rare show of chivalry in opening a door or moving off the sidewalk to make way for you. Thanks for reminding me that, as a young lady, it is my job to encourage what is now currently a rare thing to find in men. Part of the reason for that rareness is that we, as women, have discouraged chivalry in our selfish search for independence. Thanks so much for this post!
~Chelsea~
Great post. The flipside to this.. we're now teaching our 6 year old son to open the door for all his siblings, help his 2 little sisters buckle in, and hold the door to the house (or entrance to where we're going) for all of the kids and myself to walk through.
Nice post! I hope to instill gentleman qualities in my son one day. It seems to be a lost art sometimes.
What a wonderful post, and so true! I have four girls, and then a boy (whom we plan on training to be a true "gentleman"). It is difficult to be feminine in this feminist world!
Blessings to you,
Marqueta
Inspirational article! Thanks for not only encouraging us single young ladies to keep high expectations for a gentlemanly husband, but also challenging us to cultivate a ladylike spirit in our own lives as well.
Thank you for the wonderful post. It was very encouraging and so true. This subject is very important to me as a mother raising 5 daughters and now my precious son. The flip side of this very subject---just today my husband was talking to one of his friends. This friend was having a very hard time making a decision because he said that he's so used to his wife making them for him. I asked my husband if he was serious and he was!!! I could believe it because I know his wife but it still saddened me how both roles of their marriage seem so reversed.
Thanks you again for your wonderful blog and your heart for God's word and His way.
Blessings~
Shelly
Very beautiful, Kristy! I am still learning in this area... I grew up thinking I "needed" to prove that I was just as tough and strong as any boy. Its been years of re-programming my thinking! Thanks for such beautiful and encouraging thoughts!
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